Sometimes it is better to simply tolerate the wrongs of others rather than trying to stop or oppose them. Everyone has their own set of faults and if one takes a stance of trying to oppose all these wrongs of others it can become a large burden on the mind and weight it down.
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The importance of explaining their faults to others rather than censuring can never be over-emphasized. People do wrong things because they do not understand that they are doing wrong things.
Censuring only prevents others from doing wrong out of fear of getting hurt. After the censuring they may not even understand exactly what they did [...]
There is a new Dhamma (reality – the way things really are) article here:
A Buddhist Approach to Friendship
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It is important to always be weary and watchful of hidden agendas. For example someone can try to do something that looks like one thing on the surface, but is actually another thing underneath. This is an example of a hidden agenda. This someone may not even be aware of this themselves however, due to the blinding [...]
Everyone has weaknesses that they were born with; weaknesses inherited from their habits/character from previous lives. We also have our own set of weaknesses. It helps to always understand and see this when dealing with others.
Every being also strengths. Everyone, no matter who they are or what they are like, has atleast one good property. It maybe [...]
There are many injustices in this world that should not be simply tolerated. While tolerence is good in certain instances, there are times when it unwise to simply ‘tolerate and wait,’ as this can cause a lot of harm to oneself and/or others. However it is important to do this while not sinking to the level [...]
The importance of avoiding thinking during meditation can never be over-emphasised. Aimless and pointless thinking, especially when ill-will (vyapda), aversion (dosa), greed/desire (lobha), delusion (moha) and other such negative forces are involved, clouds the mind and makes it diffused. To gain a state of concentration and peace (samadhi) during meditation, all thinking must be ceased. [...]
It is important to balance kindness (metta) with wisdom (panna) when living among others. Otherwise one may find one’s kindness being taken advantage of and abused leading one to great suffering (dukkha). So know whom, when and how best to help, and also when its best not to help at all.
Buddhism (Dhamma) is not blind religion. There [...]
Let the body breathe on its own. Have you realized how tense the stomach is/can be and how we try to regulate/control the breath? This can be best noticed when doing the awareness of breath (ana-pana-sati) meditation. So rather than trying to breathe, relax the body and especially the stomach and let the body breathe [...]
